"i don't want to 'get over' my father's death"

Matthew Parris"I don't want to 'get over' my father's death," The Spectator, 12 August 2009

"It is right that we make an imprint on the minds and lives of others, right that we should be needed while still alive; and therefore right that the imprint remains and the loss hurts, and continues hurting.

So I’ve decided that I don’t want to ‘come to terms’ with Dad’s death. It’s bloody awful that he isn’t here. It still cuts me up, and this is a fact of love."